Sometimes

Be true

Dear Moving-Forward Girl,

Sometimes things happen in life that are very unfair and very painful...things that make us want to drop everything and tell our side of the story. We want to shout from the rooftops about what happened and how it got portrayed unfairly. Sometimes it takes a very long time for the truth to come out...and it is very very frustrating.

Incredible girl, please do the math and decide whether it is best to just move forward and keep doing good things and living a good life before you give your whole life to telling your side of the story. We can lose years of our lives trying to convince others that we have been wronged. Usually those who are waiting in the wings demanding to hear the juicy details are not the ones who stand beside us no matter what the story is.

Just keep being you. Just keep moving forward. Keep focused on where you want to end up and who you want to be with and how you want to feel. When we are true...the truth comes out shining bright. (even if we have to be patient and wait for it to happen)

When yucky things happen, it does not help to retaliate with more yucky things. What helps is taking the high road, being true and walking away from the fight. Even if fists are still swinging...people can fight AT us without fighting WITH US. There is absolutely no shame in walking away from the fight when it is time to walk away.

Don’t ever let a situation turn you into someone you are not. Be you. The truth will always reveal itself.

You are strong enough. Be true....and just keep being true. You are so very very very loved.

xoxo

Thanks, Brave Girls Club.

Cycle of life

From my Inner Pilot Light:

My dear Shanda, 

When one thing is born, something else has to go. Every birth is a death. 

When your destiny awaits you, you must let go of your past. 

To be what you must become, you must give up what you’ve always been. 

Grieve it. Cry it out. Hug it. Mourn its loss. 

Then let it go. Say goodbye. Release it. 

Now take my hand. You’re not alone. I’ll lead you there. 

This way, darling, 
Your Inner Pilot Light

Words of comfort

From StoryPeople

Connect to Earth

My dear Shanda,

When was the last time you took time to enjoy the natural healing energy from the Earth? When was the last time you plugged deep into the Earth and brought up all those core healing nutrients? Make time today. \

Find a park bench. Go for a hike. Stand on the beach. Turn your face to the sun. Let the breeze blow through your hair. Drink it all in.

Nature is the best medicine ever. Bask in it.

Ahhhh….

Your Inner Pilot Light

Tightrope

Most people she never tells about the tightrope because she doesn't want to listen to their helpful comments from the ground. - Tightrope from StoryPeople by Brian Andreas.

The truth of who you really are

The Brave Girls Club has this uncanny knack of knowing just what I need to hear in regards to my most current struggle.  Here's another perfect example.

Dear Gorgeous Girl,

You might sometimes forget the truth of who you really are. You might step back into the muck that has pulled you in and feel that old feeling of yucky inadequacy that has kept you stuck so many times. Remember that those icky feelings do not come from a place of truth.

When you are tired, weary, feeling weak and on shaky ground....that's the most important time to remember your magnificence. You must do your best to stay in the truth...the truth that you were created for a wonderful purpose, that there is a plan for you, that you are a miraculous & beautiful creation...a masterpiece.....that you are not just a number...that after you were made, the mold was broken and there is NOT A SINGLE SOUL on the face of the earth who is just like you.

You are SO important. You are SO LOVED. You are seen. You have not been forgotten. You are doing a wonderful job.

You are phenomenal. Don't forget it.

xoxo

I know better now, so I can do better now

Awesomeness from the Brave Girls Club.  Love the mantra: "I know better now, so I can do better now."

Dear Merciful Girl,

What if? WHAT IF today was the day that you chose to stop blaming yourself for choices you have made (choices that you would make differently today, knowing what you know now, and being who you are now). What if instead you put your arm around yourself and kissed yourself smack on the cheek and said...

"I know better now, so I can do better now"....

...and then let it be done, once and for all.

No more blame, no more shame.

Then, what if that made you feel loved and safe enough to take all of the responsibility for those choices and turn those choices into fuel that will feed your beautiful new life with wisdom and experience?

WHAT IF?

Wouldn't that be so much easier, so much more peaceful, so much more loving and merciful, and SO MUCH MORE PRODUCTIVE and RIGHT?

Yes, it would, beautiful friend. But you are the one who has to do it.

Sure hope you will.

You are so so sooo very loved.
xoxo

This

Listen to the truths

Dear Spectacular Girl,

You can be told a million times over how incredible you are, how loved you are and how much others believe in you and yet sometimes it's just too hard to believe for yourself. Sometimes, you just need to know what is true and what is real for your own self....

Beautiful girl, please take time to listen to the truths that are there for you. Seek for the deepest truth of who you are, who you were created to be, what your purpose is and the deepest truth about the individual plan that is meant just for you.

It is nice to know what others think of us. It is nice to hear nice things about our hair or our shoes or the way we decorate our house. But what is most important sweet friend is not the thoughts or opinions that others have of you. It is so important to do the work that it takes to come to the solid realization that you are a precious, amazing soul....that there is a plan for you and that if everything external was taken away from you, you would still BE YOU. You are the beauty. You are the miracle. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE PHENOMENAL.

And...you are so deeply deeply deeply loved.

xoxo

Thank you, Brave Girls' Club.