Sad soul

Lies

Dearest Shanda,

All those voices that tell you you’re not good enough / strong enough / smart enough / pretty enough / valuable enough / young enough / healthy enough / perfect enough, they are lies.

Ignore the cruel judge who spews lies and listen to me instead, for I know what is true.

You, my darling, are a perfect little spark of divinity in human form.

You are beyond good enough.Things are just as they should be. Everything is happening in perfect timing, and you are changing and growing and evolving just as you’re meant to.There is nothing for you to do. You need nothing more than who you are in this moment.

If your life were to end right this second, your life would have been a success. There is nothing more you need to prove.

Breathe that in,
Your Inner Pilot Light

Dear Valuable Girl

Must remember...must remember...must remember...  Thank you for reading my mind, Brave Girls Club.

Dear Valuable Girl,

You don't always have to be so tough, you know. There are people all around who want to help and would jump at the chance if they knew how to help and what you really need and want. There are so many people who love you. You don't have to carry this alone.

Somehow it happens that we isolate ourselves over time, stuck in a mode of survival, and forgetting that there's anything else to think about beyond how to get through the next day, or even the next few minutes. Life is not meant for that kind of living, even though there are stages of life that can stretch for a long time living this way.

Try to reach out today. Call a friend and be really honest about where you are. Try something new -- a new skill, a new recipe, a new route to the same old places. This will help you get unstuck and begin to build a life that is about THRIVING and ENJOYING rather than surviving and enduring. You are SO STRONG and you are so great at surviving and enduring, friend. But everyone who loves you want more for you than that. YOUR SOUL wants more than that, too. You know that, right?

You can do this. There are so many smiles and laughs and new friendships and new adventures ahead for you. Your best years have not even been lived yet. You have so much to look forward to. Decide to LIVE BIG!

xoxo

Worth loving

Rest

Dear Shanda,

I know some days you feel a little sluggish, like you can’t quite get moving and your ambition disappeared along with your get up and go.

You procrastinate.

Nothing gets done.

Your “to do” list is miserably undone at the end of the day.

But have you ever considered that sometimes the very thing you need in order to get a fire lit under you is rest.

Let me light your fire, baby,
Your Inner Pilot Light

Authentic Self

There are times when I feel so lost.  Not just in life or in relationships, but in myself.  And that's a scary place to be and it certainly does not feel good.  So reminders such as this from the Brave Girls Club, really help me breathe and remember that I don't need to feel hopeless and lost.  I just need to regroup and remember.

Dear Brave Girl,

You are still in there, every single bit of you. You might feel like you don't know who you are anymore, that your identity has been lost, that you are living a life that you can't even recognize or that your hopes and dreams have been sucked away but some crazy whirlwind . . .whether it happened quickly or very very slowly.

Your soul is in there, your heart is in there, your hopes and dreams and good memories and that happy, fun, adventurous YOU is in there. It is!

You just gotta get unstuck, and you can. You really can. The first thing you must do is put faith in that hope that you are still in there, then listen to that hope. Talk to it. Ask it where it has been and what it needs to come back out. Then keep listening and take action.

It's not too late. It's never, ever too late, and right now seems like the EXACT right time to begin the process of restoring your authentic self back to her true form. You can do it. Don't let the world miss out on you anymore, gorgeous girl. We need you. YOU need you!

You can do it. You are a brave girl, and you are SO loved.

xoxo

The edge

Crickets

October has been a crazy busy month and it's only half over.  I know my blog is going to be neglected for the rest of the month but I did want to write a quick post.

I think I am getting better. 

Life is getting a bit easier.

Not as many panic attacks or down days have plagued me.

I don't want to get my hopes up but I am definitely smiling more.

Find your compassion

Dear Shanda,

I know you still struggle with limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging behaviors, and negative patterns you acquired in your childhood, when you learned to do whatever you felt it took to gain the love of your parents.

But don’t let that make you bitter, sweetheart.

Remember, those who raised you were doing the best they could, and the ways in which they failed you were inherited from those who raised them.

Forgive.

Overcome.

Let go.

Find your compassion.

Here with extra,
Your Inner Pilot Light